Aegoromantic

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Aegoromantic is the romantic counterpart to aegosexual. It describes people who imagine or enjoy romantic scenarios, but do not include themselves in these fantasies. Attraction is felt at a distance, often directed at the idea of relationships between others, without the desire to take part personally.

Like aegosexuality, aegoromantic identity is part of the aromantic spectrum. It reflects the idea that a person can feel interest in romance as a concept or in fictional stories, while not wanting to experience it in their own life. This allows individuals to separate the enjoyment of romance from the desire to be in a romantic relationship themselves.

The term grew out of online queer communities as people searched for words that explained their distance from personal romance, while still validating their attraction to romantic themes. Aegoromantic people may love reading romance books, watching romantic films, or daydreaming about couples, yet remain uninterested in romance directed at themselves.

Sophie loved romance dramas and could spend hours discussing the chemistry between fictional characters. She felt moved by love stories, admired romantic gestures, and even cried during wedding scenes. But when friends asked if she wanted that for herself, Sophie always hesitated. The idea of someone directing romance at her felt uncomfortable.

Discovering the word aegoromantic gave Sophie clarity. It explained why she could feel passion for the idea of romance without wanting to live it. With this new understanding, she stopped forcing herself into relationships that did not feel right. For Sophie, being aegoromantic was not a lack of feeling, but a recognition that her attraction to romance belonged to others, not to herself.

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