Amarity, also called amarous attraction, is a form of attraction where a person does not specify the type of attraction they feel. This can mean they do not prioritise romantic, sexual, platonic, or other forms of attraction, they see no distinction between them, or they do not consider one form more important than another.
Amarity can be described as both a type of attraction and an identity in its own right. People with this identity may choose to practice relationship anarchy or adopt an amatopunk approach, where all forms of attraction and connection are valued equally. In this context, a relationship based on amarity may be referred to simply as a relationship, or by a specific term such as an amariship. An amari “crush” may also be called a tresh or a rush.
The suffix -mari can be added to orientation prefixes to create more specific terms, such as homomari, heteromari, bimari, and panmari. Amari is the umbrella term and has no set rules, allowing every amari connection to be unique. No two amari relationships need to work in the same way, making the identity flexible and open ended.
Sasha never quite understood why friends insisted on separating relationships into romantic, platonic, and sexual categories. To them, it all felt like one spectrum of connection. Sometimes they felt deeply close to someone without romance or sex. Other times intimacy included physical attraction, but it did not feel more important than any other bond they had.
One evening Sasha came across an online discussion about amarity. The description fit perfectly; valuing different kinds of attraction equally, or not seeing them as separate at all. They realised this explained why they never felt the need to decide whether a connection was “just friendship” or “more than that.”
When Sasha began using the term amarity, it helped friends understand why their relationships did not follow common categories. With some people they had amariships, which could involve affection, closeness, and sometimes sex, but without a hierarchy of importance. For Sasha, amarity was not a way to avoid labels; it was a way to express that every connection could be defined by the people in it, not by outside rules.
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