Énasdemisexual describes an individual who experiences sexual attraction to only one person in their lifetime, and only after forming a deep emotional connection with that individual. This identity combines elements of Énassexual (a lifetime attraction to one individual) and demisexual (requiring a profound emotional bond for sexual attraction to occur). Énasdemisexual individuals may never feel sexual attraction unless both these conditions are fulfilled, making their experience of attraction deeply unique and rare.
Énasdemisexual is part of the Énas Orientation and the Demi Orientation.
Raúl never understood why his friends in college were so fascinated with casual dating and hookups. While they talked about physical attraction and chemistry, Raúl felt indifferent. It wasn’t that he didn’t appreciate beauty, but he simply didn’t feel any kind of pull toward physical intimacy. His friends often joked, “You’re just waiting for the right person!” Raúl shrugged it off, unsure how to explain his feelings.
Years later, Raúl met Isabela, a kind and thoughtful woman who shared his passion for art. They spent countless hours together, discussing everything from favorite painters to life philosophies. Over time, Raúl realized he was feeling something he’d never felt before; a desire for intimacy that stemmed from the emotional bond they had built. It was then he came across the term Énasdemisexual. Reading the description, Raúl felt a light bulb moment. “This is me,” he thought.
He shared the term with Isabela, saying, “I’ve never felt this way about anyone before, and I don’t think I ever will again. It’s because of the connection we have.” Isabela smiled and said, “That makes what we have even more special.”
Identifying as Énasdemisexual gave Raúl a sense of clarity and confidence in understanding his experiences. It allowed him to communicate his unique orientation to Isabela and others, celebrating a form of attraction that, while rare, was deeply meaningful.