Abrosensual describes a type of sensual attraction that is fluid and can change over time. Individuals who identify as abrosensual may experience shifts in the intensity, focus, or nature of their desire for physical closeness, such as cuddling, holding hands, or other forms of non-sexual touch. These changes can happen frequently or gradually over weeks, months, or even years. An abrosensual person may sometimes feel strongly drawn to touch and physical affection, while at other times, their desire for such closeness might wane or shift. This fluidity allows abrosensual individuals to embrace their changing experiences of sensual attraction without being confined to a single way of expressing affection.
Jamie identifies as abrosensual, finding that their desire for physical closeness changes from time to time. Some days, Jamie craves long hugs and the warmth of sitting close to friends or loved ones. On other days, their desire for touch might lessen, and they feel more comfortable maintaining personal space. Jamie’s partner, Alex, is familiar with these shifts and supports Jamie’s fluid experiences of sensual attraction. One weekend, Jamie felt particularly affectionate and enjoyed hours of cuddling on the couch while watching movies. The following week, their desire for physical closeness faded, and they felt content just holding hands or exchanging brief touches. For Jamie, being abrosensual means embracing the natural ebb and flow of their desire for physical affection. It allows them to enjoy moments of touch when they feel drawn to it and to honor their need for distance when they don’t. This fluid approach brings them comfort, knowing that their experiences of affection can change, and that’s perfectly okay.