Amaregender is a form of gender fluidity where an individual’s gender changes based on whom they are in love with or attracted to. This unique identity highlights the influence that different types of attraction; be it sexual, romantic, or spiritual; have on one’s sense of gender. The term emphasizes that for amaregender individuals, their gender identity is intertwined with their experiences of love and attraction, shifting in response to emotional and relational dynamics.
For years, Leandro felt that their gender expression was linked to their romantic interests. When they were deeply infatuated with their partner, who identified as non-binary, Leandro felt their own gender lean toward a more neutral and fluid state. Conversely, when they were drawn to someone with a strong masculine energy, Leandro noticed that their own sense of self shifted toward the masculine end of the spectrum. It wasn’t until Leandro came across the term amaregender in an online community that everything clicked. “This is why my gender feels so connected to who I love,” they realized. They shared this with their close friend Yasmin, explaining, “My gender changes based on who I’m drawn to, whether it’s romantic or just a deep connection.” Yasmin nodded, saying, “It makes so much sense now why your expression shifts.” Embracing amaregender allowed Leandro to understand and accept these changes without feeling confused or inconsistent. It validated their experience of gender being more dynamic and relational, rooted in how they connected with others. This insight gave Leandro the freedom to explore love and gender without limitations, appreciating how both were beautifully intertwined.