Apogender is a subset of the agiagender spectrum where an individual not only feels genderless but also entirely disconnected from the concept of gender itself. People who identify as apogender experience a sense of being outside the gender spectrum and may feel that gender as a concept holds no relevance to their identity. Unlike broader agender identities, which may involve acknowledging genderlessness, apogender individuals often reject the idea of gender altogether. This identity is relatively rare, as many who might align with apogender are not inclined to engage with gender-related terms or labels at all.
Isabel always felt a profound sense of detachment when people discussed gender. Growing up, when peers spoke about being boys, girls, or non-binary, Isabel felt like an observer of an alien concept. They resonated with agender descriptions but felt even those terms didn’t capture their complete disconnection from gender. One day, while browsing an online forum, Isabel stumbled upon the term apogender. “This is me,” they thought, realizing that it wasn’t just a lack of gender but an absence of relevance that defined their experience. Isabel shared their thoughts with their close friend Mateo, saying, “It’s not just that I’m genderless; it’s like gender doesn’t even exist in my world.” Mateo nodded, understanding how deeply Isabel’s identity was rooted in being free from any gender constraints. Discovering apogender allowed Isabel to express their experience in a way that felt authentic without needing to engage with the complexities of the gender spectrum. It brought a sense of peace, affirming that not everyone needed to fit into or even recognize the structures of gender to feel valid.