Domestic attraction is a type of attraction characterized by a desire to engage in domestic activities with or for someone. This can involve tasks such as cooking, cleaning, performing general housework, gardening, living together, or raising children. It’s centered on wanting to live together, create a home, and handle daily routines jointly, such as cooking, chores, and spending quiet time at home. Domestic attraction isn’t necessarily romantic or sexual; it focuses on the comfort and security of shared living and building a stable home environment with someone. This attraction can bring a sense of peace and closeness, as it’s about building a life and home together.
Sam feels strong domestic attraction toward their best friend Alex. They love the idea of living together, sharing meals, and creating a cozy home. After years of friendship, Sam asked Alex if they’d like to move in together. They imagined mornings spent making breakfast and evenings unwinding on the couch. For Sam, the appeal wasn’t romantic but was centered on the comfort and stability of having a home with someone who understands them deeply. Moving in together strengthened their bond, as they found joy in small domestic rituals like decorating their shared space and planning dinners. Domestic attraction, for Sam, is about creating a warm, familiar environment with a trusted person, enjoying the routine of daily life. This type of attraction brings them a unique sense of belonging and contentment, separate from romance or friendship.
Patterns of domestic attraction toward certain genders can shape an individual’s domestic orientation, often described with terms like “heterodomestic” or “bidomestic.” People who frequently experience domestic attraction may be called allodomestic, while those who seldom feel it may identify as adomestic. Partnerships built on domestic attraction can be referred to as domestic relationships. Domestic attraction is closely related to, and sometimes overlaps with, platonic, parental, and romantic attraction.
History
The idea of domestic attraction is often intertwined with descriptions of romance, leading some to mistakenly assume that domestic relationships inherently involve romantic feelings. In patriarchal societies, women have historically been encouraged to develop domestic attraction, fostering a willingness to perform household tasks for their partners, particularly within heterosexual marriages. These individuals were often labeled as housewives, although this term is now considered politically incorrect by many and is often avoided.
The term “Domestic Partnership” originated as a legal term to describe adults engaging in typical relationship activities; like living together and sharing romantic bonds; without being married. First proposed in August 1979 by Tom Brougham, the original concept focused on same-gender partners who were ineligible for marriage. This definition eventually became part of the law, allowing registered partners to receive certain benefits similar to those of married couples. Domestic partnerships remain distinct from domestic attraction-based relationships, as they are defined by legal standards rather than social bonds.
The first known explicit mention of domestic attraction as a term occurred on February 7, 2021, by AceXPGrace on the AVEN forum.
Sources
- Yeban, Jade J.D. “What Is a Domestic Partnership?” FindLaw, May 25, 2023. Link
- AceXPGrace. “Fletting domestic attraction?” The AVEN, February 7, 2021. Link
- Foreigntoolmaker. “Domestic Attraction,” LGBTQIA+ Wiki, August 27, 2021. Link
- Naraharisetty, Rohitha. “Unpacking ‘Housewife’ And Its Problematic Implications,” Feminism in India, January 7, 2019. Link
- Rao, Aliya Hamid. “Even Breadwinning Wives Don’t Get Equality at Home,” The Atlantic, May 12, 2019. Link
- Traiman, Leland. “A brief history of domestic partnerships,” The Gay & Lesbian Review Worldwide, vol. 15, no. 4, July-August 2008, pp. 23+. Link
- What is a Domestic Partnership? LawDepot, January 9, 2023. Link
Source
https://new.lgbtqia.wiki/wiki/domestic_attraction_and_orientation